In less than a month, we will be welcoming a new year and a new decade. How time flies! It is the time to set goals again for the new year.
To be honest, I have mixed feelings with the coming of 2020. December for me is quite an anxiety-filled and very busy month. I feel overwhelmed with all the tasks needed to accomplish at work and home, holiday shopping, and budgeting. I am also anxious because my mind keeps on focusing on the negative things that might go wrong. Do you feel me?
I know I have to do something for me not to bring the feelings of overwhelm and anxiety in the new year. One of my ways to keep the negativities at bay is to be organized. For almost three years, I do an annual review and goal-setting to help me feel more in control of my life which will also lessen the feelings of stress and anxiety. I know most people have lost faith in creating resolutions but personally, it is my way to be more organized and directed.
In this blog post, I will be sharing with you my process in doing annual review and goal-setting. This is my way of keeping myself on track with my goals and maybe, hopefully, you’ll learn a thing or two from this or just take inspiration if this is also your thing.
My theme for 2019 is “Go Beyond Good” and quite honestly, I think I have achieved this. Several events showed my efforts to be true to my year’s statement. Although I have not remembered my theme in every situation, I have unconsciously revolved most of my actions in this statement. This also helped pushed me to face my fear of public speaking and accepting speaking invitations that even became my freelance side-hustle.
For 2020, my theme statement would be “Re-build the Foundation” because I felt that I hustled and explored too much this year that I have forgotten the basics such as my values and priorities. In 2020, I want to live slower and more intentional. I aim to practice traditional and essentialist lifestyle.
With this theme in mind, I identified five areas of my life that I want to focus on and my mini goals in each area:
FIVE AREAS OF LIFE TO FOCUS ON 2020
Finances and Business
- Make budgeting a habit
- Lead a more frugal and simple life
- Accept only speaking invitations that are aligned with my advocacy and message
- Help parents establish their little food business
- Be passionate (again) with my main hustle as it is the one that provides for my family and other financial needs
- Learn more about home-making skills (e.g. cooking, baking, sewing)
- Take opportunities that you are scared of because growth is in there
- Continue learning about writing, blogging, and vlogging
- Reconnect with God and faith
- Read and learn from good books, resources, and people
- Strengthen the bond with family, Zen, and friends
- Be more kind, patient and understanding
Health (Physical, Mental & Emotional)
- Walk more, dance and move more
- Count calories
- Be more frugal with the food you eat, practice mindful eating
- Take care of your body, take vitamins
- Take a self-care day every week
Environment / Advocacy
- Continue advocacy with mental health
- Join Haribon or other environmental groups
- Live a sustainable, frugal and eco-friendly lifestyle
- Take care of your bedroom and home
- Filter the people you follow and watch online
Then I try to narrow and simplify this long list by identifying my top 6 goals that I want to prioritize next year:
TOP 6 GOALS FOR 2020
- Be more frugal. Create a budget, live simply and creatively.
- Value your work, regain passion for it. Make an impact through it.
- Strive for a healthier lifestyle. Move, eat and sleep.
- Prioritize relationships. Value others’ contributions and try to contribute good ideas too.
- Reconnect with my faith and spirituality
- Learn the skills of home-making
Aside from setting goals, I also reviewed and reflected the lessons the year has taught me and I came up with this list:
LESSONS I LEARNED IN 2019
- Don’t go in debt for a lifestyle you can’t afford. Save money!
- Relationships are your priority. You are working because of love. Family > Work
- Be courteous. Be firm with your words to avoid problems with relationships
- Take care of your body and health. Don’t abuse your body
- You can’t do things alone, you need people/others. Even in counseling, you can help the client better if you collaborate with others (the clients’ family, colleagues, other professionals)
- Not everything should be done for money. You can do things just because you are interested in it or if you love it
- It’s okay to experiment, try and fail. This is where you will learn and grow
- Avoid toxic relationships. It is okay to avoid/cut ties with people who don’t contribute to your happiness and wellness but some people are worth fighting for. Make efforts for them
- Be more uplifting with your posts on social media. Be more you!
- Let your man/others lead at times but still contribute actively to the task/relationship
MY EXPERIENCE WITH COACHING
I have always been open with my passion for mental health and if you are following me on my other social media accounts, you might already know that I am a school counselor. But even though I am already considered a professional, it is better if I will be able to experience counseling or coaching myself. Remember that even mental health professionals need assistance too.
I was fortunate enough to meet Ms. Joyce Talag in an event that we have both attended last July 2019. We followed each other on Instagram and soon enough we were able to work together for a training session to the employees of a company.
Ms. Joyce Talag is a #SolutionBuilder, professional coach and development consultant. She has been working with people, companies, and communities for over 12 years. I am grateful that she has offered me to try her most recent program, the 2020 My Year to Thrive program where I realized the major goals I want to pursue next year. The program also helped me identify my top 5 strengths. Moreover, I got a clearer and better picture of who I am as a person and what are the things I value the most.
This is my third time to experience coaching as I also worked with a business coach and a financial coach earlier this year. However, this is the first time to experience solution-focused life coaching. I enjoyed every session I had with Ms. Joyce and I truly learned a lot of things. She is such a sweet and wise soul. In addition, she asks the right questions that will make you think and realize important insights.
If you are also interested to get a clearer picture of what you want to happen in 2020, gain awareness of your signature strengths, skills and resources as well as establish a concrete plan to accomplish these goals, 2020 My Year to Thrive Program is still open for students. Also, if you want to work with Ms. Joyce too, you can check her website here.
Failing to plan is planning to fail – Alan Lakein
I encourage you to review and reflect about your year, set goals or even avail of the 2020 My Year to Thrive Program to fuel your motivation this coming 2020. I am hoping that you will make your mental health a priority too by handling your feelings of overwhelm.
Wishing you happy holidays and a prosperous new year, friends!